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Motivations Matter

Friday, July 16th, 2010

“The vocation of every man and woman is to serve other people.” ~ Leo Tolstoy

Greatness can often be determined by how well any one entity serves another. Be it as a parent, business, charity, church, government or nation, service is at the heart of legacy.

The economic boom was on in the early 1990s, and I was in downtown Auckland, New Zealand contemplating what makes five-star hotels better than others. My wife and I like to seek out these special hotels around the world, often popping in for a drink and to stare at the rich decorations and soak up the plush and sometimes historical atmosphere. Our conversations often come back around to what really makes a five-star hotel worth its five stars.

It’s easy to fall for just the decadence as the reason for a high rating, but in truth, a five-star hotel gets its rating for how well its visitors feel served. The time, knowledge and experience invested to create this type of facility are only successful by how well they serve. But beyond exotic exteriors service is also a motivation. Visitors can tell if their purse matters more than even they do.

Many years ago a fellow student asked me for help with his accounting. As international students pursuing undergraduate degrees, we connected over shared former experiences in Africa and a mutual interest in government. As I tried to help him, he acted completely disinterested. I couldn’t tell why until another well-dressed guy came up to us while we were studying. Together they proceeded to try to convince me to sign up for a multi-level marketing business. When I said no, the guy to whom I’d offered help showed no interest in friendship. His motivation in approaching me with kindness was actually for personal profit.

Motivation marks us as human beings like a chameleon changes colors to suit its surroundings. We can often tell if kindness, friendship and service are being offered as a gift or dangling carrot.

A core tenant of our values today says: “The more convincing customer care can be at pretending it values you, the customer, rather than your wallet, the more successful it will be.” But imagine if you will, individuals and organizations serving each other from the heart with genuine care and love for others. As our economy breaks down deeper and scams and frauds are exposed, why not let it expose our own fraud and how we’ve turned kindness and care at all levels into economic transactions?

Giving Anonymously is an expression of this imagined place. It’s a simple tool that protects peoples’ motivation to give and to be given to. It exposes people to the incredible joy there is in giving without gaining anything in return. But even if we do gain, let it be the fruit of our service rather than the reason for our service.

by Lionel Thompson

Empowerment

Monday, January 25th, 2010

by Sarah Day

photo by Pete Day

I sat in my way-too-comfy-you-can-almost-never-get-out-of-it purple chair this morning and read this article by Naomi Klein titled, “Revisiting the Shock Doctrine in the Wake of Haiti Disaster.”  The below paragraph grabbed my attention.

“…participants say they are not just repairing buildings but healing themselves. It makes perfect sense. The universal experience of living through a great shock is the feeling of being completely powerless: in the face of awesome forces, parents lose the ability to save their children, spouses are separated, homes-places of protection-become death traps. The best way to recover from helplessness turns out to be helping-having the right to be part of a communal recovery.”

And it made me think of the word empowerment.

Wikipedia says empowerment is “increasing the spiritual, political, social or economic strength of individuals and communities.  It often involves the empowered developing confidence in their own capacities.”

One definition that I particularly like, found here, is “the breaking of destructive or non productive cycles and systems that prevent people from achieving the fullness of their potential.”

When we empower, we give someone ability.  We give a community tools.  We educate.  But it’s easy to steal someones ability by doing the job done ourselves.  It’s tempting, perhaps, to build the home instead of giving the tools for building.  And it’s easy to switch from educating to deciding for someone.

How can we empower by what we give, and not just patch, bandage, or worse yet, steal from freedom or recovery?  There are many ways to empower and many currencies with which we can give.  That’s my hope when I give of my time, energy and resources—to release strength in people, rather than to make them feel victimized or helpless.  And it is our aim at Giving Anonymously, to facilitate this kind of giving.  What do you think?  Have you been empowered in a unique way by someone you know?  Have you felt the thrill of releasing someones potential and strength?  We’d welcome your thoughts on this topic!

{image via Pete Day Photography}

Faces of GA

Monday, January 18th, 2010

by Sarah Day

Picture 15

A few questions that we’ve received lately have inspired this post.  Thank you everyone for your comments and questions–we love sharing the how and the why of Giving Anonymously!

One element of our organization, our “niche” you could say, is to be a tool through which you can be your own anonymous charity, seeing the need of those in your community and networks, and being active and generous in supporting those needs.  We believe that YOU really do the best job of spotting the needs of those around you.  We want to empower you to have your ear to the ground, to be an active and aware member of your community, and to experience the joy that comes from meeting the needs or desires of those around you.  Our motto, as some of you already know, is, “we’re not the charity, YOU ARE.”

Another element, which people hear and see less of, is our Needs Department.  Our team receives requests for help on a daily basis, and are often ear to some of the most dire needs that people are experiencing.  It’s humbling to hear thousands of requests from people all over North America (and beyond as well) to help them pull through painful circumstances.  Every once in a while, we receive donations that are undesignated, from people who’ve asked us to give it to someone we know is in need.  When that happens, we absolutely love having the ability to not only listen to people express their needs, but also pass along financial help.  If you’d like to join us in meeting these needs, you can click here.

And a third element or our organization is something we’ll be launching over the coming two weeks!  We’ll be announcing another tool that we’ve developed to help you give, so stay tuned for more.

Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day, everyone!

The Best Phone Call Ever

Monday, December 21st, 2009
image via telephoneart.comby Sarah Day

 

 

 Giving Anonymously:  Hi, my name is Sarah, I’m calling from an organization called Giving Anonymously.  Is Steve there?

Hesitant Woman:  Um…what organization?  Oh, yeah, Steve is here.

[shuffling sounds and woman calls out in the background, "Steve! Phone!"]

Steve:  This is Steve.

Giving Anonymously:  Hi Steve, my name is Sarah and I’m calling from a non-profit organization called Giving Anonymously. 

Steve:  [sounding irritated] Oh, no thanks, I don’t want it.

GA:  [smiling and quickly interjecting] Steve, I’m actually not selling anything.  This is going to sound strange, but our organization let’s people give money to their friends or family while remaining completely anonymous. 

[At this point Steve sounds almost more skeptical so I charge on trying to convince him]

GA:  We have a website where someone that you know made out a virtual check to you.  I’m just calling to let you know that we’ll be mailing that check to you and to make sure we send it to the right address. 

Steve:  [still doubting but doesn't sound like he's going to hang up on me anymore] Um…this is…interesting…

GA:  [I laugh out loud] Yes, it is a little hard to believe, I know.  We encourage you to go to our website givinganon.org and make sure we’re legitimate.  Check out our press tab and see what the New York Times has written or what NBC Nightly News has said.

Steve:  Um, ok.  [pause and Steve sighs audibly]  Wow.

[At this point in the conversation I always get so excited.  The recipient starts to believe what they're hearing and it's always incredible to get to listen to their first reactions as the idea sinks in.] 

GA:  So Steve, with your permission, I’ll read to you the address that your secret donor gave us so we can make sure to send the check to the right place.

Steve:  ok, what do you have?

GA:  [I read the address]

Steve:  Yes, that’s correct.  But I still don’t understand…If this is a scam…

GA:  I understand this sounds really unusual, and you’re absolutely right to be skeptical.  It actually is for real though — someone you know just wants you to have this gift with no strings attached, no expectation of return, no awkward feelings between the two of you.

Steve:  Well, who is it?

GA:  I’m sorry Steve, that’s the only thing I can’t tell you.  We promise our donors that we’ll keep their identity secret.

Steve:  Well, what do I have to do?

GA:  When you get the check in the mail, it will come with a phone number for you to call and leave a thank you message for your secret donor.  We’ll send that message to them so they know we followed through on our end and sent you their money.

Steve:  [starts to cry on the phone] It’s just that no one has ever done something like this for me before!

GA:  [I'm inspired even more at this point] I’m so glad that someone cares so much for you and has done this for you.  Are you willing to accept this gift?

Steve:  [still sniffling] Yes.

GA:  Great.  Well, it will be sent in the mail to you in the coming 2 business days.  Be looking for it in the mail.  Merry Christmas Steve.

Steve:  Thanks.  Merry Christmas to you, too.

 

Note: This was a real conversation but the names have been changed. 

{Image via telephoneart.com}

Making It Easy

Friday, December 18th, 2009

by Misha Thompson

Did you know that women and children are the fastest growing segment of the homeless population nationally? Did you know in 2002, 12.1 million children were living in poverty? That is 16% of all of the children in the US.

Did you know that according to our local county’s homeless count, the majority of the local homeless are female or under the age of 18?

Did you know that many people say now that they know someone, or of someone, that has been homeless for a season?

Did you know that of the top thirteen reasons most people become homeless, two of the reasons are inability to pay property taxes and mortgage foreclosures?

That  may sound like too many faces to even think about. But do you know how your neighbour is doing? Do you know who is taking care of women and children in your area who are needing a place to stay tonight? Does a face come to your mind that you love?

I would imagine, if you are anything like the national norm, you probably even have friends or acquaintances who are trying not to loose their homes right now.

Sometimes all it takes it a small gift to make a big difference. And to do that without causing the person who is struggling any shame makes it an even bigger gift.

This year for Christmas here at Giving Anonymously we are trying to raise $10,000 for our local women and children’s shelter. And we are doing that simply by asking you to take one minute a day for the next few weeks and vote. You can vote once a day, per email address until January 4th. (The link to vote is below.)

Agape 1

{Some cute kids at the Agape Home here in our town.}

We are also offering you our time and efforts to process any gift you want to send to someone who could use a Christmas surprise this next week. We process gifts that people send that are as small as ten dollars and some gifts that are much bigger. But all of them are a chance to say that no one should wake up without a home on Christmas Day.

One gift at a time, we are here to help you make a difference for the people you know and care about.

All checks going out!

  {Checks getting ready to get mailed out at our office this week!}

The easiest way to vote is to friend us on facebook. There is a link on that page, on the left hand side column, that we use every day to go vote. But you can go also go directly here and vote once a day, per email address, until January 4th. 

Click on the middle picture under “Lionel and Misha Thompson” on the bottom row under “Best Hometown Hero.”

If we get the most votes Agape Home will get a $10,000 gift.

Agape Home

{The Agape Home.}

 

Sources: Agape Home website, New York Times here and here, Government census here.

Photo credits: Agape Home and Giving Anonymously.

Office Tour and Update

Monday, December 14th, 2009

by Sarah Day

O. Henry’s Magic

Wednesday, December 9th, 2009

by Misha Thompson

It is COLD. For the relatively mild Pacific Northwest, when the newspaper says it’s not getting above freezing today, or maybe for a couple days, that is cold! The air has been sparkling with the crisp, clear, blue-tinged light that comes with chilly air. The lumbering UPS trucks have been making more trips up and down our street than normal, the kids have been curled up with bowls of popcorn watching Frosty the Snowman and White Christmas and all the cinnamon candles and fireplace coziness is kicking into high gear!

Someone mentioned over the weekend that Christmas was nineteen days away and my jaw dropped. Today it’s only sixteen days away! I am home, in p.j.’s, sick. And what makes that unusual is no-one else is sick, too. And just the mama being under the weather, when everyone else is in high Christmas gear, is a little bit tricky. Cookies aren’t getting baked, laundry is barely getting done and chicken noodle soup is about all that is getting made from scratch around here.

But yesterday, with this week’s Advent theme being Love, I had the true fun of being the first person ever to curl up on the couch and read my kids the famous story O. Henry wrote just for this time of year.

” ‘The Gift of the Magi’, as this site explains, is about a young couple who are short of money but desperately want to buy each other Christmas gifts. Unbeknownst to Jim, Della sells her most valuable possession, her beautiful hair [my daughter gasped!], in order to buy a platinum fob chain for Jim’s watch; while unbeknownst to Della, Jim sells his own most valuable possession, his watch, to buy jeweled combs for Della’s hair ["Did he know?!" my son was shocked.] The essential premise of this story has been copied, re-worked, parodied, and otherwise re-told countless times in the century since it was written.”

But my kids had never heard it before, and when I got to the part at the end where O. Henry explains the famous title I teared up. I had tears not just for the sentimentality I have in spades, or for the romance of the moment of introducing my kids to beautiful stories (I love that kind of stuff!), but I got very emotional thinking of how many families across the US were experiencing that day by day countdown and panic of not knowing if they will have gifts under the tree.

I know there are many people wondering, when money is tight and jobs are in flux, how to still make a Christmas magical for their kids. This week I was reminded again that generosity is the most magical gift out there. It multiplies and proliferates and keeps on creating smiles as it passes from hand to hand and intention to heart.

We are still voting daily – all of us in our family that have email addresses, even grandparents and family all over the world! – hoping very much that we will be able to give a $10,000 check to families who need it most - women and children at a local homeless shelter. We would love it if you would vote with us. We are also helping our kids pick a few people of their choice to give some money to, anonymously, for Christmas. Even just a small amount creates a huge measure of joy. We want them to experience the delight of O. Henry’s words, too. 

 “The magi, as you know, were wise men – wonderfully wise men – who brought gifts to the babe in the manger. They invented the art of giving Christmas presents. Being wise, their gifts were no doubt wise ones, possibly bearing the privilege of exchange in case of duplication. And here I have lamely related to you the uneventful chronicle of two foolish children in a flat who most unwisely sacrificed for each other the greatest treasures of their house. But in a last word to the wise of these days let it be said that of all who give gifts those two were the wisest. Of all who give and receive gifts, such as they are wisest. Everywhere they are wisest. they are the magi.”

~ O. Henry

 

To vote you can go here.

To read O. Henry’s short story, The Gift of The Magi, you can go here.

{image via wikicommons}

Hope?

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009

by Misha Thompson

Our new communications manager here at Giving Anonymously, Sarah Day, wrote something up for us, for a meeting we had this week. She wrote a statement of purpose for us for the holiday season that said, in part:

“We want this holiday season to be all about giving. Over and above communication of voting on MSN or spreading the word about GA, we want to spread the word about being generous to those around us. We want to solicit people’s generosity during the holiday season and ask people to give rather than consume this Christmas. We want to emphasize the joy of giving!”
 
I absolutely loved what she said. Because I want that to be true in me and in my own family.  This last Sunday marks the beginning of the Advent season, something we observe as a family. If you haven’t seen this short clip from the folks at Advent Conspiracy, I think you would like it, too.

Our family treasures the Advent season. Our emphasis during Advent is on the preparation for Christmas and on being together – on giving of ourselves rather than things. It has become the heart of our family Christmas traditions and what we emphasize the most.

In our family we put up a Christmas tree the weekend after Thanksgiving and the kids get to sleep under the twinkling tree lights. We read together in the evenings and have “planning parties” to plan the Christmas Eve Day party we host for our neighbours and friends. We celebrate this season as a time of getting our hearts ready for joy and hope by doing things together and not at all as a time of following rules or being “religious”. 

Each night as we gather around the  Advent candle, we have been thinking of ways we can give rather than consume. We slow down, see each other smile in candlelight, listen to the kids giggle over their candy canes.  It is also a time for us to explain deeper roots of tradition to the kids and why they can have special meaning to us as individuals and as a family, too. And this week’s theme for Advent is Hope. Watching the many people give to those around them in need through Giving Anonymously this year has been nothing if not hope giving for us as a family.

Are you experiencing the joy of giving this year? What brings you hope this Advent? What are ways you are giving hope to others?  

{Be on the look out for a tour of our new office spaces and our staff and volunteers here soon.}