Making It Easy

December 18th, 2009

by Misha Thompson

Did you know that women and children are the fastest growing segment of the homeless population nationally? Did you know in 2002, 12.1 million children were living in poverty? That is 16% of all of the children in the US.

Did you know that according to our local county’s homeless count, the majority of the local homeless are female or under the age of 18?

Did you know that many people say now that they know someone, or of someone, that has been homeless for a season?

Did you know that of the top thirteen reasons most people become homeless, two of the reasons are inability to pay property taxes and mortgage foreclosures?

That  may sound like too many faces to even think about. But do you know how your neighbour is doing? Do you know who is taking care of women and children in your area who are needing a place to stay tonight? Does a face come to your mind that you love?

I would imagine, if you are anything like the national norm, you probably even have friends or acquaintances who are trying not to loose their homes right now.

Sometimes all it takes it a small gift to make a big difference. And to do that without causing the person who is struggling any shame makes it an even bigger gift.

This year for Christmas here at Giving Anonymously we are trying to raise $10,000 for our local women and children’s shelter. And we are doing that simply by asking you to take one minute a day for the next few weeks and vote. You can vote once a day, per email address until January 4th. (The link to vote is below.)

Agape 1

{Some cute kids at the Agape Home here in our town.}

We are also offering you our time and efforts to process any gift you want to send to someone who could use a Christmas surprise this next week. We process gifts that people send that are as small as ten dollars and some gifts that are much bigger. But all of them are a chance to say that no one should wake up without a home on Christmas Day.

One gift at a time, we are here to help you make a difference for the people you know and care about.

All checks going out!

  {Checks getting ready to get mailed out at our office this week!}

The easiest way to vote is to friend us on facebook. There is a link on that page, on the left hand side column, that we use every day to go vote. But you can go also go directly here and vote once a day, per email address, until January 4th. 

Click on the middle picture under “Lionel and Misha Thompson” on the bottom row under “Best Hometown Hero.”

If we get the most votes Agape Home will get a $10,000 gift.

Agape Home

{The Agape Home.}

 

Sources: Agape Home website, New York Times here and here, Government census here.

Photo credits: Agape Home and Giving Anonymously.

Office Tour and Update

December 14th, 2009

by Sarah Day

Why I love Giving Anonymously

December 11th, 2009

by Kari Young

When I found out that Giving Anonymously wanted me to call people and tell them they had anonymous gifts waiting for them, I felt like I’d won the lottery. I was giddy for weeks, and felt like Santa Claus every time I made a phone call.  Listening to recorded thank you messages and forwarding them to the gift-givers was even better – each one felt like a special gift that I was privileged to hear and be a part of.

As a stay at home mom, I spent the last four years immersed in diapers, giggling kiddos, twinkle twinkle little star and yes, even some whining & temper tantrums. (Make that LOTS of whining and temper tantrums.) Before having kids, I had worked extensively with non-profits, doing everything from volunteer management to fundraising to web marketing.  Getting the opportunity to volunteer and use all my old skills again felt incredible. (My brain still worked! I’d had my doubts….)

Giving Anonymously fascinates me.  With my background in fundraising, I have heard a lot about what compels people to be generous and give their time & finances.  Many times I was incredulous – Did you know that studies have shown people donate the most when they are sent a letter that is a) super long (one study had the best response from a FIFTEEN page letter!)  and b) mailed repeatedly -  at least 10 times.   All those super annoying gimmicks (sticky notes, red lettering, multiple P.S. notes at the end of the letter) are in fundraising letters because they work.  Fundraising has become this crazy science, full of research, statistics and is practically an industry – and it sort of depressed me.  People donate because my letter is four pages instead of two?  That seems like such a rotten reason to be generous.  What about a connection, passion even for the cause?

All this to say – the reasons people choose to give and be generous, is a topic I love to think about. I observe it in my own life as well. So many times I knew a friend needed financial help and I balked at the uncertainty of sneaking cash into their mail. Or there was a cause I felt passionate about, but didn’t do anything because it seemed to much work when I had a baby screaming on my lap. I almost didn’t even offer to help with Giving Anonymously because I didn’t think it would fit into our busy schedule. In the end, I was so excited about what they were doing, I couldn’t help but get involved, and I have loved every moment of it.

So how can we get people to give more generously? By sending them fifteen letters with lots of fake handwriting, six P.S. notes at the bottom and free address labels? How do you inspire people who are bombarded with sad stories of people needing help multiple times a day? We spend so much of our time isolated from others and I think that has affected our generosity as well.  We often rely on other people to care for those in need – organizations, the government, international aid and never come in contact with those we are trying to help.  It feels like no one needs us personally, they just want our money.  So we hand over check after check and wonder what really ended up happening with it.

I think relationship is the key to generosity. It immediately connects you to a cause, whether it is a sick friend raising funds for cancer or a homeless person who touched your life and inspired you to give to a soup kitchen. A trip to Kenya suddenly has you researching all the ways you could help in that area.  That is the part of giving that I love.  The excitement of feeling like you really can make a difference and understanding exactly what the money you donate is going to do.

That is why I love Giving Anonymously. I love how it demands a personal connection in your generosity. I love that it is a new way of giving, a new way of inspiring people to act on their impulses to help others. I am so excited to see it grow, catch on and hopefully become a cultural shift to give generously to those you meet in your everyday life.

O. Henry’s Magic

December 9th, 2009

by Misha Thompson

It is COLD. For the relatively mild Pacific Northwest, when the newspaper says it’s not getting above freezing today, or maybe for a couple days, that is cold! The air has been sparkling with the crisp, clear, blue-tinged light that comes with chilly air. The lumbering UPS trucks have been making more trips up and down our street than normal, the kids have been curled up with bowls of popcorn watching Frosty the Snowman and White Christmas and all the cinnamon candles and fireplace coziness is kicking into high gear!

Someone mentioned over the weekend that Christmas was nineteen days away and my jaw dropped. Today it’s only sixteen days away! I am home, in p.j.’s, sick. And what makes that unusual is no-one else is sick, too. And just the mama being under the weather, when everyone else is in high Christmas gear, is a little bit tricky. Cookies aren’t getting baked, laundry is barely getting done and chicken noodle soup is about all that is getting made from scratch around here.

But yesterday, with this week’s Advent theme being Love, I had the true fun of being the first person ever to curl up on the couch and read my kids the famous story O. Henry wrote just for this time of year.

” ‘The Gift of the Magi’, as this site explains, is about a young couple who are short of money but desperately want to buy each other Christmas gifts. Unbeknownst to Jim, Della sells her most valuable possession, her beautiful hair [my daughter gasped!], in order to buy a platinum fob chain for Jim’s watch; while unbeknownst to Della, Jim sells his own most valuable possession, his watch, to buy jeweled combs for Della’s hair ["Did he know?!" my son was shocked.] The essential premise of this story has been copied, re-worked, parodied, and otherwise re-told countless times in the century since it was written.”

But my kids had never heard it before, and when I got to the part at the end where O. Henry explains the famous title I teared up. I had tears not just for the sentimentality I have in spades, or for the romance of the moment of introducing my kids to beautiful stories (I love that kind of stuff!), but I got very emotional thinking of how many families across the US were experiencing that day by day countdown and panic of not knowing if they will have gifts under the tree.

I know there are many people wondering, when money is tight and jobs are in flux, how to still make a Christmas magical for their kids. This week I was reminded again that generosity is the most magical gift out there. It multiplies and proliferates and keeps on creating smiles as it passes from hand to hand and intention to heart.

We are still voting daily – all of us in our family that have email addresses, even grandparents and family all over the world! – hoping very much that we will be able to give a $10,000 check to families who need it most - women and children at a local homeless shelter. We would love it if you would vote with us. We are also helping our kids pick a few people of their choice to give some money to, anonymously, for Christmas. Even just a small amount creates a huge measure of joy. We want them to experience the delight of O. Henry’s words, too. 

 “The magi, as you know, were wise men – wonderfully wise men – who brought gifts to the babe in the manger. They invented the art of giving Christmas presents. Being wise, their gifts were no doubt wise ones, possibly bearing the privilege of exchange in case of duplication. And here I have lamely related to you the uneventful chronicle of two foolish children in a flat who most unwisely sacrificed for each other the greatest treasures of their house. But in a last word to the wise of these days let it be said that of all who give gifts those two were the wisest. Of all who give and receive gifts, such as they are wisest. Everywhere they are wisest. they are the magi.”

~ O. Henry

 

To vote you can go here.

To read O. Henry’s short story, The Gift of The Magi, you can go here.

{image via wikicommons}

Our Faces

December 7th, 2009

Hello Everyone!  Let me introduce you to some of the amazing people who work at Giving Anonymously.

Lionel & Misha

Lionel & Misha

This is Lionel, he’s our executive director and chief visionary.   He and his wife Misha, pictured with him, started Giving Anonymously in 2005.  Since those beginning years, Giving Anonymously has grown immensely and now they’re dedicated to it’s development full time.  They love hosting friends in their home and enjoying the northwest outdoors with their two children.

Jen

Jen

This is Jen.  If you’ve gotten a thank you message from the recipient of your gift, it’s because she processed and sent it to you.  She loves cooking, riding her motorcycle, and sailing in the San Juans with her husband and two teens.

Val

Val

Say hello to Val.  For those of you who couldn’t believe that getting an anonymous gift in the mail, with no strings attached, was actually true, you probably asked Val a lot of questions when she called you to tell you a check was coming.  She understands how strange it can be, and enjoys telling people that the good news is indeed true.  She’s an avid Seahawks fan, even when they lose, loves to use everyday items in new ways to decorate, and enjoys golfing with her husband in her spare time.

Kari

Kari

And here’s Kari, our Volunteer Coordinator.  Kari is an avid gardener, a mother of two preschoolers, and is not-so secretly obsessed with absolutely everything to do with food.  On weekends you can often find her hunting down fresh seasonal ingredients and cooking something outrageous with them.  She enjoys rallying people to help Giving Anonymously in times when things get really busy.

Pete & Sarah

Pete & Sarah

My name is Sarah, and this is my husband, Pete.  Pete works as our General Manager here at Giving Anonymously.  He’s a long-distance runner, creative photographer, and lived on a hospital ship in Africa for several months after university.  He’s a closet romantic and actually proposed to me in a rowboat in the middle of a field.  Doesn’t that make you smile?

I love frozen cherries, sunshine, and all things bright red.  I’m enjoying my new role at Giving Anonymously as Communications and PR Manager, and it makes my day to hear from you all.

In addition to those we have introduced here, we have a whole host of others who have given their time, talents, and resources to the work of Giving Anonymously.  We absolutely couldn’t do it without them!  And finally, we are also so grateful that an organization like Giving Anonymously can even exist.   Here’s to the amazing and gracious people who generously give to those around them and take no recognition for it, apart from the joy of making someone’s life a little easier.  Cheers to you.

Hope?

December 2nd, 2009

by Misha Thompson

Our new communications manager here at Giving Anonymously, Sarah Day, wrote something up for us, for a meeting we had this week. She wrote a statement of purpose for us for the holiday season that said, in part:

“We want this holiday season to be all about giving. Over and above communication of voting on MSN or spreading the word about GA, we want to spread the word about being generous to those around us. We want to solicit people’s generosity during the holiday season and ask people to give rather than consume this Christmas. We want to emphasize the joy of giving!”
 
I absolutely loved what she said. Because I want that to be true in me and in my own family.  This last Sunday marks the beginning of the Advent season, something we observe as a family. If you haven’t seen this short clip from the folks at Advent Conspiracy, I think you would like it, too.

Our family treasures the Advent season. Our emphasis during Advent is on the preparation for Christmas and on being together – on giving of ourselves rather than things. It has become the heart of our family Christmas traditions and what we emphasize the most.

In our family we put up a Christmas tree the weekend after Thanksgiving and the kids get to sleep under the twinkling tree lights. We read together in the evenings and have “planning parties” to plan the Christmas Eve Day party we host for our neighbours and friends. We celebrate this season as a time of getting our hearts ready for joy and hope by doing things together and not at all as a time of following rules or being “religious”. 

Each night as we gather around the  Advent candle, we have been thinking of ways we can give rather than consume. We slow down, see each other smile in candlelight, listen to the kids giggle over their candy canes.  It is also a time for us to explain deeper roots of tradition to the kids and why they can have special meaning to us as individuals and as a family, too. And this week’s theme for Advent is Hope. Watching the many people give to those around them in need through Giving Anonymously this year has been nothing if not hope giving for us as a family.

Are you experiencing the joy of giving this year? What brings you hope this Advent? What are ways you are giving hope to others?  

{Be on the look out for a tour of our new office spaces and our staff and volunteers here soon.}

Thankfulness

November 30th, 2009

by Sarah Day

Season BeautyWhen I think of Thanksgiving Day, memories of my family table come to mind.  My parents were always faithful to initiate the question, “so what are we thankful for this year?”  My siblings and I, especially in younger years, would always squirm in our seats and take forever to answer.   Many times we’d just steal whatever the sibling to our left said, or make Mommy smile by saying, “I’m most thankful for Mommy!”  Does your table look anything like that?

At Giving Anonymously, we get to witness thanksgiving of another kind.  It’s doesn’t involve canned responses, nor is it a kind of thankfulness that takes a child a few minutes to decide on.  It’s a thankfulness that bursts forth from a heart that has been surprised and unexpectedly cared for.  It’s a thankfulness that comes so naturally after someone receives an anonymous gift in the mail at just the right time, allowing them to pay an important bill, or get that prescription, or buy produce.  And it’s a contagious thankfulness.  We’d like to share that kind of thankfulness with you this season.

Listen to these:

Thank You #1

Thank You #2

Hearing these day after day has begun to shape not just my Thanksgiving Day thankfulness, but my every day thankfulness.  We look forward to sharing more of that joy with you in the future.

Happy belated Thanksgiving, everyone.

Butterfly Awards

November 24th, 2009
by Misha Thompson & Sarah Day

Giving Anonymously is excited to announce that we’ve been nominated for MSN’s 2010 Butterfly Awards!

We are honored to be nominated alongside a few other organizations who are all doing incredible work.  We’d love it if you take the time to go and vote for us.  But we’d love it even more if, as you vote, you think of one person you know who you could send an anonymous gift to this week.

Although we would love to give our award to our non-profit of choice (more on that below) we would love even more to see this holiday season marked as the most anonymous gifts ever given to your friends and neighbours.

Why? We found out this week that the Butterfly Awards were named for the idea that one small waving of a butterfly wing can potentially alter whole weather systems on the other side of the globe. (In fact it’s why the butterfly was chosen as the MSN logo, too.) Wikipedia says:  It is  “a minor change in circumstances causing a large change in outcome.”  We are hoping for a “a large change of outcome” through generosity this holiday season, starting this week.

This effect is often described or alluded to in books, movies and popular culture. Our favourite example is in Frank Capra’s ever popular movie It’s A Wonderful Life where James Stewart as George Bailey sees what a difference it makes when his friends come around him and see his need and give.

We have seen (and we hear on the voice messages coming in daily) that one small gift has the power to change someone’s entire life.  “It’s turned my world around”, as Michelle Millar said on NBC.

We’d like to ask not only for your vote for our Butterfly Award, we’d also like to invite you to  become a part of the butterfly effect we are hoping for through Giving Anonymously!

We are hoping for that in our community through giving our award to our local women and children’s shelter – that $10,000 will make a change in many precious lives that need it right now the most. We are hoping for that in your community and amongst your neighbours where only you can see what changes and hope is most needed. And ultimately – our big, big dream – is we are hoping that we will see a nation-wide effect of generosity in our economy, health care and in how we treat each other as neighbours all over.

Here’s how you can join the Butterfly Effect:

An individual can vote once per day, every day until the competition closes on January 4th, 2010.

1) go to this link: http://entertainment.msn.com/flashback/

2) click on any of the small face pictures on the right side of the page (Lionel and Misha, our directors, are pictured third from the left)

3) choose one celebrity cause you appreciate as well

4) select “vote now” and submit your votes!

5) come back and do that as many times as possible until 4 January, 2010

6) link to our post from your facebook page or blog to help us start this change of hope through giving

7) go to GivingAnon.org and make a check out for as little as ten dollars to give to someone you want to include in the dream of having a butterfly effect of hope and generosity

Thank you for your vote and please let us know how we can help you surprise someone with a gift through Giving Anonymously.

We Love Your Comments

November 20th, 2009

GA Staff and Volunteers{Some of our current staff and volunteers here at Giving Anonymously.}

Our comments here on the blog are temporarily down – please find us on our facebook page and feel free to leave a comment there.  We’ll let you know as soon as you can comment here again.

Thank you for your patience.

Behind The Scenes

November 19th, 2009

by Misha Thompson

{Getting ready.}

This week I learned that it takes a lot of work to get your home set up and ready for a magazine photo shoot. And that it takes even more work to keep two squirmy, don’t-mess-up-your-hair-kids engaged enough to smile at the photographer instead of running laps around his equipment bag. (Not that I hadn’t suspected this before!)

Giving Anonymously has gone from being a midnight job for my husband, sitting at our computer after the kids are down and homework is done and dinner dishes are washed, less than four months ago, to now being our full time work. We couldn’t be more honoured and thrilled that it is. Being privy to the messages going out on checks and coming in on thank you voice-mails, putting stamps on the envelopes and processing all the details, is like getting to play Santa every day. We have grown faster than we ever anticipated and as a result we have come into contact with some of the most beautiful and kind-hearted people we could ever imagine.

But one of the amazing things about Giving Anonymously’s (GA) recent growth is that we have never pursued or paid for any marketing or media exposure whatsoever. It has been a wild ride for the last two and half months since NPR, the New York Times and NBC all came knocking – but it has been a fun ride, too!

Several years ago my husband and I gave a financial gift to some friends going through a hard time. We wanted to pass on some of the generosity that we have experienced from others so many times, too. But to our chagrin, the passing on of money altered the dynamic of our friendship and introduced some weird vibes of obligation and expectation that we so didn’t want to see happen.

The idea behind Giving Anonymously came about because of my husband trying to think of a way that we could’ve given to our friends, without this awkwardness happening. My husband and I came up with the idea for GA’s logo by drawing it out on a paper tablecloth during a date we had at a local Tapas Bar. We came up with the plan for how the website would work while walking and talking down the cobblestone streets of our little town, pushing our bright, yellow jogging stroller when I was very pregnant with our second child.

When we listen to voice-mails coming in thanking people for gifts, I don’t think it has ever failed to make at least one of us tear up and say “Can you believe this?” “Can you believe how beautiful people are?”

This last Monday we had the honour of sitting for a photo shoot for a national magazine that will be publishing an article about what we are doing (it comes out in January.) The photographer absolutely charmed the socks off our kids and was beyond gracious to us as a family.

Once again I thought about how lucky we are. We get to meet wonderful photographers who just so happened to have an almost six year old boy himself. Who just so happened to have some really amazing stories about 113 grizzly bears being all around him and who just so happened to know some perfect riddles to keep my two bouncy kids entertained.  All while he was busy setting up big, white umbrellas and snappy, hot flashes in our living room.

{Checking things out.}

Be they donors, recipients, volunteers, journalists, business people, web designers, techie geniuses, phone installers or photographers – we have felt so honoured and grateful to go on this journey with Giving Anonymously. With you.

If you have given a gift through GA, received a gift through GA, helped tell people about GA or spread the word about what we do in any way, shape or form – we want to say thank you. Thank you for letting us be a part of your generosity and your kindness. Thank you for letting us pass on your heart to someone else anonymously. We are so grateful.

{A photographer who tells funny riddles!}